The agony of Alzheimer’s: ‘Paddy Crosbie talks about his experience of his husband having dementia
It has been 36 years since Paddy and Derek met in the early hours of the morning, on April 9, 1988, “in a great nightclub called Hooray Henry’s, it was a gay disco,” Paddy says. “He asked me to dance. A real gentleman. I fell hook, line, and sinker for him. I moved in about a week later.”
When I ask Paddy to describe his husband, he smiles and says: “To this day I still think he’s gorgeous. He was originally from Northern Ireland, so he had a lovely soft accent, which melted me. He was so kind, and caring, and considerate; I don’t think I ever heard Derek say anything bad about another human being. He had a huge sense of justice and fairness about him, and always wanted people to be treated the right way. And us being treated as a couple, that was foremost in his mind from the very beginning when we got together, even though at the time, our relationship wasn’t legal.”
Paddy Crosbie and Derek Simpson knew in the early stages of their relationship that they wanted to get married. Eventually, in 2012, they were able to have their civil partnership, in City Hall.
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Credit to : Irish Independent